Hair We Have It.

Thought: (as I couldn't sleep anyway)

Fam i got locs,
I doah care bout you frowsy opinion.

The main reason men have opinions on black women who wear weaves, is because it removes their "right" to shame and devalue a black woman based on her blackness.

It's antiblackness pure and simple. Misogynoir.

Black women with our own hair exposed, are no more less than black women with our hair concealed. Das how we wanna feel.

But, men have been trained to see our value according to our proximity to whiteness. Actually, it's a much bigger problem then just men... SOCIETY itself is trained this way, thus the accommodation of men's delusional daydreams on a wider scale. (Don't look at me, go look at fucking Motown, and follow the trends coming forward, then look at your man's IG like habits)

Black men will swoon and fawn over mixed women (once their hair is 'good hair' and they look like the lil babies will be an amalgamation of their fantasies and their mothers with better hair than their picky head grandmurr  and you can argue with ya picky head grandmurr bout da), see them as complete and valid. With or without context. They can roll out with a rats nest flying on their necks, but as long as those curls and waves are present, that's still a woman. A natural woman. 

Those same black men will look at a black woman with natural edges, the ones that don't lay down and see her as unkempt and picky looking. She's unclean and lazy. They'll always have a comment or a few as a part of the microaggressions that black women face in life, discrediting the value of the whole woman, because her hair isn't as caucasian as his fantasy.

"I like my girls hair long down past dem shoulders to gimme sain to pull"- let's address this in point format shall I?

• we don't grow our fucking hair for your approval.
• my hair is not your fucking handle bar.
• I like my men paying the $250, and 6 hours it takes to get my hair dyed and styled but here we are, neither of us getting our way.
• 4C hair, isn't here for your bullshit Dennis. Our hair gets fuller, and denser and refuses to lie down and drape over out shoulders just so you can perpetuate your low-key racist fetish, Dennis. Frankly, I'm not lying down for you either. Go away.

You do realize that our hair
Is not here at your insistence that we have it
 readily available to be groped, grabbed,
and subjected to abuse for a
misplaced  racist fetish, right Burt?

• you don't get to actually yank linen hair either, you'd discover that fusion weaves don't just exist for Britney Spears.
• so, to be clear, an absolute indicator of what makes a woman to you is the length of her hair...?
• you've sexualized our fucking hair. What is wrong with you?
• a woman's hair is A PART of her identity, it doesn't define her unless she herself wants it to.
• your STILL asking us if it's real. We've been living through overenthusiastic zippers for at least 60 years, we don't walk the fuck up to you and ask if your crotch mountain is real. Oh and this doesn't need to be said to linen wo/men, the only thing y'all need to know about my hair is that you'll hurt if you touch mine.

Anyhow, when she (black woman aka God- makes everything in her image, hi Kim Kardashian, we made you, down to that slicked back ponytail you wear) goes ahead and decides to weave her hair in straight styles, his (dem miserable niggas) complaint becomes "oh she hates herself".

Nevermind that from their OWN experience, they know how black hair behaves according to climate. (or maybe they don't because they don't actually CARE for their own hair, they cut it off, wash it with whatever's in the shower and use sweat to moisturize, I don't fucking know. SEVERAL men down the line, they take care of their beards and dassit dey, again argue with ya picky head grandmurr).

Nevermind that Black men specifically, ridicule and humiliate us for any strand of hair not acting like a good creole, or dougla girl. They hate us when we're any "natural" less than fucking Alicia Keys and then express this hatred in any number of ways, from memes to long ass think pieces about how we must love ourselves more in order for them to love us, I think that's what's called irony? 

For black men, our hair, what we CHOOSE to do with it, is ALWAYS just another excuse to exercise their domineering control over our existence.

We're not to have agency over our hair. We're to have darkish skin, big asses, flat stomachs, narrow noses, Botox fresh lips, straight edges and soft loose curly hair that grows over night, and fart fucking bubble gum.

Yay black women. 🙆🏽‍♀️

*Photo compliments my friend Risée who is joyfully unbothered by people's opinions on her crown*

The Last Pudding Cup

Long ass read for those of you still trying to debate about the alleged sabotage of his "legacy".

Me, a mood.

Pill Cosby:
•grew up with his mom and dad
•served in the Navy
•has a bachelor's, master's and a doctorate
•possibly has a daughter he never claims
•made respectable comedy based on his healthy childhood
•never says Nigga.
•hosted several shows targeting black youth showing them positive experiences and images
•got 3 Emmys for one single role
•is a convicted sexual offender.
•created fat Albert and other animated television characters
•he played an obstetrician in the Cosby show
•he constantly spoke up against "bigotry and racism" in his early years
•stated that black ppl who go to prison deserve whatever happens for committing crimes anyway
•used his comedy to combat the violence of "blaxploitation" movies
•raped women by drugging them first
•worked with Spike Lee on a documentary about a racist bombing of an Alabama church.
•delivered the pound cake speech in 2004
•has a habit of paying off women to shut them up that's well documented
•is blind since 2015
•received 11 Grammy awards
•is 81 years old
•doesn't like cursing
•raped Andrea Constandt and delivered the pound cake speech in the same year
•has admitted to drugging women for him to have sex with them
•always dresses nicely
•was a physical therapist or such during his time in the Navy.

Bill Cosby's crimes run way deeper than just his sexual misconduct. His contributions shaped the narrative of what was ACCEPTABLE blackness in the United States of America.

Preparation for his reality

His work and "legacy"  defined what was unacceptable blackness and his words were accepted by the mainstream, because he was Bill Cosby. In fact his exact words "...And then we all run out and are outraged, 'The cops shouldn't have shot him.' What the hell was he doing with the pound cake in his hand? I wanted a piece of pound cake just as bad as anybody else, and I looked at it and I had no money. And something called parenting said, 'If you get caught with it you’re going to embarrass your mother.' Not 'You're going to get your butt kicked.' No. 'You're going to embarrass your family.' " were uttered the very year he raped Angela Constandt.

Meanwhile he was behind the scenes:

•Philandering- he horn he woman left and right.
•Raping women- he admitted to drugging women to stop them from saying no
•Grooming other women so he could do either of the above
•Paying off these women
•Possibly fathering unclaimed bastards 

But yet, many can only see him as a pillar of excellence.

We claim to want justice for these kinds of crimes against women, we claim we want women to feel safe, but yet, here's the minimal amount of justice that COULD have been doled out to any one person who committed the amount of acts Bill himself ADMITTED to, and we're complaining that it's too much because he's old?

He embarrassed his family, his mother, his wife, his children, and the millions of you, whom he had not an ounce of remorse towards when he stated "We are not Africans. Those people are not Africans; they don’t know a damned thing about Africa. With names like Shaniqua, Shaligua, Mohammed and all that crap and all of them are in jail." but we're CERTAIN this is all an elaborate trap to destroy his musty "legacy" .

Pill had a full life. He contributed immense amounts of material to our libraries. 

He is a rapist and a fraud. He is the boogeyman.

Now you know.